I think it's good to start with my earlier blog post to learn the origin story of this blog and you will get a small primer on the "versions of myself" that I have inventoried. I've taken the graphic from that blog and replicated it here so we can start bucketing sections of the timeline.
V1: 1985 to 2003 (birth to 18 years old)
In V1, we have childhood and adolescence. It's not in the graph above as it was simply a time in my life that I was developing into a human and coming into my own personality.
V2: 2003 to 2008 (18-23 years old)
In V2, I remember hearing from people "oh just wait until you get to the REAL world!!". As if I was in some doll-drums that wasn't reality. It created this perception of delay. That choices we make today aren't a big deal because none of it is "real". I modeled as a hobby and traveled the country having fun in between studying. But I also took on scary debts (that luckily didn't ruin me).
V3: 2009 to 2016 (23-31 years old)
In V3, almost all of my life choices were driven by being on the "life escalator". You just do stuff because "that's what adults do" and you don't question it or know how to find alternatives (or to calculate opportunity costs).
V4: 2017 to 2021 (31-36 years old)
In V4, I realized I was on both a life escalator and a relationship escalator. In V3 I had simply been following the path that society writes for all of us because I didn't know there were any other options. I realized that a long-term monogamous relationship was not serving me in the way I had been told it would. I discovered relationship anarchy and set my eyes on getting out of the US to rediscover myself. There was a somewhat terrifying realization for me in V4: I had been convinced my whole life that the purpose of life (one worth living) was finding your one-true-love that served all purposes for all of time, getting married to them, and then dying. And when V4 of me realized this was no longer my purpose, this empty void sat staring back at me asking "then what is the point of it all?". My search for purpose commenced.
V5: 2021 to now (36-38 years old)
In V5, I made a shift away from searching for purpose and moved into discovering my values. Purpose tends to be outward facing and "how can I serve others" where our values are inward facing and "how can I serve myself". So I quit my job since I discovered I didn't need to prove anything to anyone and that I should make decisions that give me the life I want to lead. I started freelancing and discovered the FIRE movement through the ChooseFI podcast. A movement that I previously thought was about eating ramen noodles and sacrificing.
I am excited to see what V5 has in store for me and setting up future versions of myself for success. Part of my work in V5 is learning to spend more money to save time. As someone who grew up poor, it can be difficult convincing myself to spend money on a house cleaner (as example) because my whole life I considered that a "rich people luxury". I struggle with this today as I try to find tasks I can give to a virtual personal assistant.
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Unfinished human, currently v.5.0. Expecting at least 10 more versions. Aspiring adult.